Judgment of Judgment is Judgment

The human race is a multicolored patchwork quilt of beliefs, ideologies and behavior patterns. This is a good thing. You cannot imagine how boring your life would be if it were otherwise.

For your entertainment, you have been provided with companions whose ideas may be different from your own. 

This is a good opportunity for learning and spiritual growth.

Why do their words upset you?  Do they make you feel angry? Sad? Victimized?

What does this say about your own beliefs and how might others perceive you?

It is all right to have a different set of ideas and beliefs. It keeps you on your toes and makes you think. It shows you where your emotional triggers are and gives you an opportunity to work through them.

You can look at another and say, “That is not what I want, feel or believe,” without attacking them. 

You can state your own ideas and do not have to respond or reason with your detractors. 

You do not know what it is like to be the other person; therefore, you do not know how your own words or actions might be affecting them. 

An offhanded remark may bring up a traumatic memory from the past, and the person will feel defensive.  They may lash out in their attempt to deal with strong emotions.

Do not judge them too harshly. Let them know they have been heard, and agree to disagree.

People, like animals, lash out when they feel wounded. 

You may feel that you have been judged harshly. You may feel that the other person has no right to do this. 

You may feel that they are wrong, close-minded and inflexible.

Congratulations, Your Honor!  You are now the judge.

You have a right to defend yourself if attacked, but a preemptive strike against them or a devastating attack will only make the situation worse.

Judgment leads to more judgment. Spiritual maturity gives you the ability to stand nearby and say, “That’s your reality. Thank you for sharing.”

Early in life, judgment is important. It teaches you not to touch a hot stove or walk into a door. 

As you grow, you learn that these behaviors do not serve you and you avoid them.

The stove isn’t bad. It’s just not a good idea to touch the burners.

Someone who has never seen a stove doesn’t know this. Have compassion for them.

Don’t judge the judges. If you feel the need, then walk up to a door and yell at it for being in your way. 

You will get the same level of satisfaction, without spreading more fear and anger.

The door will continue to serve you no matter what you think about it. ~Silas