Most problems people face in the healing process come from fighting it. Your doctors give you a pill to make symptoms go away that are part of the healing process. Then the problem gets worse. You need a new pill to treat the symptoms caused by the first pill that was used to treat your body's attempt to heal itself.
Healing from heartbreak is a similar process. There are no shortcuts. When you jump quickly into another relationship, you bring your old relationship issues with you. If you have not healed them or at least recognized them. You will experience them again.
Continuously moving from one relationship to another is no different from being a drug addict with a steady supply of drugs. To be truly healed, you must face the withdrawal symptoms. Cocaine is not a cure for cocaine addiction.
You do not need to sit alone and suffer while this process goes on. You can make it easier by using the energy for creative and constructive things. Writing, dance, music and art can be part of the healing process. Many artists have had difficult lives but used their pain to create.
Know that healing is a process, it will pass and when it does, you will feel lighter and more free. You will feel more confident, have more energy and be less dependent on others.
If you try to cheat it, you will only be cheating yourself. You are worthy of better things. Allow yourself the gift of anger, that breaks through obstacles, allow yourself the gift of uncertainty that will start you asking the questions that will put you on the right path, allow yourself the gift of tears that cleanse your heart and soul.
Hurts and injuries can and will stop you in your tracks. You must heal your feet if you want to walk down your life's path. ~ Silas
Jinnzania's side notes: My own healing journey has been long, painful and occasionally humiliating due to the thoughtless actions of a person I thought was my soulmate. He was my drug of choice. I would feel high when we we were together, and crash during long absences, (in which other women were probably feeling the same thing). "We", apparently, were all crazy. "We" didn't understand him. So "we" never checked his story. This part of "we" wouldn't have. I was stoned on the sociopath. When you've been hurt by someone with no capacity to feel pain, know that you will receive no help or closure. Don't think you will ever even have the chance to confront him. You are on your own. Keep your true friends close, for they will pull you up during your dark times. The journey is long, but the destination is worth it. "Cheat to win" was his philosophy. I'd rather just quit the game and take my life back. Every day, I get a little closer. I think most people in the world are good. Don't let one bad egg ruin it for you.
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