Deconstructing Criticism

You clench your teeth with fear. You are awaiting critique. It may be a test score, a piece of writing or artwork, an audition or a special project you have just completed at work.

The critic walks into the room. Your power goes out. Suddenly, your self-esteem is entirely in their hands. The critique has not yet begun and you are already missing a golden opportunity.

If you want to eliminate flaws and produce work that will be appreciated by others, it is good to have another person check your work. Your work is an expression of who you are, but it is not you. Appreciate the gift of feedback.

A second set of eyes can pick up mistakes that your tired eyes may miss. They may l spot holes and spaces for improvement. They may spot something brilliant that you have downplayed. They may see an interesting pattern that you might want to explore further.

Criticism can be a blessing, if you can remember that it is not about you. It is natural to feel defensive when someone is looking for errors in your work, but as the goal is improvement, you need to deal with those feelings and listen to the message. Sometimes having your feelings hurt can inspire you to improve your work and do a better job in the future, but allowing your feelings to be hurt is a choice that you make.

It is true that some critics let their power go to their heads and can be deliberately mean and harsh. Even their opinions can be helpful, if you let go of your pride and remember that improvement of your work is the ultimate goal. If there is any honesty in their critique, it can be helpful. Use your own judgement as well. Critics aren't perfect either.

Some of the greatest artists and writers and actors have been criticized harshly. Some have been told they had no talent. What made them great was pushing past the criticism, making changes as necessary, and continuing the work. Continued practice often brings the best results.

When you face criticism, look for the good things as well as the bad. Adjust your work as needed, but make sure it remains an accurate reflection of you.

Critics are not always correct in their assessments, but don't be too hard on them. With constructive criticism, persistence and practice, they will get it right. ~Silas