Remembering What Nature Feels Like

Too many of you have gotten yourselves off track.  You then attempt to keep yourselves there through overstimulation.  

When you stop, your body tries to balance itself, usually with sleep. As you cannot sleep during the work day, you must then overstimulate more with caffeinated beverages and sweet foods.  

You continually do this to yourself for decades, and teach your children the same habits, so that your children learn also to fuel their bodies with caffeine, sugar, electronic devices and screen time.

You force your bodies to conform to an unnatural condition. Then you cry out when your bodies attack you. This “attack” (sickness, headache, fatigue) is an attempt to bring about a state of balance. 

You can help your body do this by cutting down and eliminating things that over-stimulate. A better diet, more rest, exercise, spending time in quiet places, and outdoors can assist your body as it tries to balance itself. 

Can’t do it? “Gotta have my coffee! Need that sugar fix! Outdoors? Bugs, dirt, sunlight….ahhhhh, I’m melting!” 

You don’t have to give up all of the things you enjoy, just try to reach a point where it is you who are controlling the substance or situation: “I think I’d like some coffee this morning vs. Fill my mug and get out of the way!” When you’ve reached the latter stage, you are not receiving pleasure from the beverage, just feeding your need. 

There is a lovely, pleasant experience in that perfect cup of coffee or the mellow, warm feeling from an occasional alcoholic beverage.  There is that fun, giddy feeling of watching a favorite television show or the heart-filling moment when you connect meaningfully with a friend or loved on the phone. 

Do it enough to enjoy it. Back off when enjoyment becomes need. 

A body, mind and spirit in balance can experience many amazing sensations. You will find more joy in daily experiences when you stop needing and start appreciating. ~Silas

Healing For Real

Healing is not a pretty process. Sometimes the medicine you must take is bitter. If healing is your goal, then you must take it. You cannot ask another person to take it for you.

Most problems people face in the healing process come from fighting it. Your doctors give you a pill to make symptoms go away that are part of the healing process. Then the problem gets worse. You need a new pill to treat the symptoms caused by the first pill that was used to treat your body's attempt to heal itself.

Healing from heartbreak is a similar process. There are no shortcuts. When you jump quickly into another relationship, you bring your old relationship issues with you. If you have not healed them or at least recognized them. You will experience them again.

Continuously moving from one relationship to another is no different from being a drug addict with a steady supply of drugs. To be truly healed, you must face the withdrawal symptoms. Cocaine is not a cure for cocaine addiction.

You do not need to sit alone and suffer while this process goes on. You can make it easier by using the energy for creative and constructive things. Writing, dance, music and art can be part of the healing process. Many artists have had difficult lives but used their pain to create.

Know that healing is a process, it will pass and when it does, you will feel lighter and more free. You will feel more confident, have more energy and be less dependent on others.

If you try to cheat it, you will only be cheating yourself. You are worthy of better things. Allow yourself the gift of anger, that breaks through obstacles, allow yourself the gift of uncertainty that will start you asking the questions that will put you on the right path, allow yourself the gift of tears that cleanse your heart and soul.

Hurts and injuries can and will stop you in your tracks. You must heal your feet if you want to walk down your life's path. ~ Silas

Jinnzania's side notes: My own healing journey has been long, painful and occasionally humiliating due to the thoughtless actions of a person I thought was my soulmate. He was my drug of choice. I would feel high when we we were together, and crash during long absences, (in which other women were probably feeling the same thing). "We", apparently, were all crazy. "We" didn't understand him. So "we" never checked his story. This part of "we" wouldn't have. I was stoned on the sociopath. When you've been hurt by someone with no capacity to feel pain, know that you will receive no help or closure. Don't think you will ever even have the chance to confront him. You are on your own. Keep your true friends close, for they will pull you up during your dark times. The journey is long, but the destination is worth it. "Cheat to win" was his philosophy. I'd rather just quit the game and take my life back. Every day, I get a little closer. I think most people in the world are good. Don't let one bad egg ruin it for you.