Judgment of Judgment is Judgment

The human race is a multicolored patchwork quilt of beliefs, ideologies and behavior patterns. This is a good thing. You cannot imagine how boring your life would be if it were otherwise.

For your entertainment, you have been provided with companions whose ideas may be different from your own. 

This is a good opportunity for learning and spiritual growth.

Why do their words upset you?  Do they make you feel angry? Sad? Victimized?

What does this say about your own beliefs and how might others perceive you?

It is all right to have a different set of ideas and beliefs. It keeps you on your toes and makes you think. It shows you where your emotional triggers are and gives you an opportunity to work through them.

You can look at another and say, “That is not what I want, feel or believe,” without attacking them. 

You can state your own ideas and do not have to respond or reason with your detractors. 

You do not know what it is like to be the other person; therefore, you do not know how your own words or actions might be affecting them. 

An offhanded remark may bring up a traumatic memory from the past, and the person will feel defensive.  They may lash out in their attempt to deal with strong emotions.

Do not judge them too harshly. Let them know they have been heard, and agree to disagree.

People, like animals, lash out when they feel wounded. 

You may feel that you have been judged harshly. You may feel that the other person has no right to do this. 

You may feel that they are wrong, close-minded and inflexible.

Congratulations, Your Honor!  You are now the judge.

You have a right to defend yourself if attacked, but a preemptive strike against them or a devastating attack will only make the situation worse.

Judgment leads to more judgment. Spiritual maturity gives you the ability to stand nearby and say, “That’s your reality. Thank you for sharing.”

Early in life, judgment is important. It teaches you not to touch a hot stove or walk into a door. 

As you grow, you learn that these behaviors do not serve you and you avoid them.

The stove isn’t bad. It’s just not a good idea to touch the burners.

Someone who has never seen a stove doesn’t know this. Have compassion for them.

Don’t judge the judges. If you feel the need, then walk up to a door and yell at it for being in your way. 

You will get the same level of satisfaction, without spreading more fear and anger.

The door will continue to serve you no matter what you think about it. ~Silas

Leaving Behind to Move Forward

There are times when a relationship has, simply, run its course. People come together for a reason.

Sometimes they continue to grow and learn together. These are the relationships that last.

Two people often come together to meet and fulfill a need, or explore a common interest. As long as the need is present or both still have the same interest, the relationship will continue.

Letting go of a relationship doesn’t make you a bad person. You are not meant to stand still or wait for others to catch up.

You may not be ready to go down the path another is going. Respect yourself. You may need more time or you may need to take another path.

It is natural for some people to drift out of your life. It doesn’t have to be an ugly thing. As you release past relationships with love, new ones will drift into your life. 

If a relationship ends badly, then let it go. Do not exhaust yourself trying to make it work.

Good relationships require work, compromise and understanding, but one party should not have to do all the work.

 

If all efforts to remedy the relationship have failed, then it might have evolved beyond its usefulness and must be released.

The decision is always personal, but when a relationship is only causing grief and stress then have no guilt about letting it go.

You free yourself and allow the other party the responsibility of taking charge of their own life. That is a difficult gift for some to accept, but it brings power and strength and will ultimately take the person to a better place.

Letting go is not abandonment, but release. 

Sometimes you will find yourself released by another. Do not try to follow, they will return at an appropriate time if it is meant to happen. If it is not, then you are better off.

Give yourself the gift of release, assured in the knowledge that you are all that you need, and other companions will follow in time.

Some relationships last a lifetime, others are fleeting. They all happen for a reason. A long relationship is not better than a short one. It is only shorter. A painful relationship can be a life-changing lesson.

Your relationship with Spirit will never abandon you. Even in the absence of all companionship fairies, angels and spirit guides hover about you sending you love and encouragement. 

You are never alone. ~Silas

From Adversity to Amazing

Would it surprise you to know, that many of your favorite artists, musicians and storytellers had difficult childhoods or perhaps faced challenges as adults?

They may still be going through them. You can see it in your periodicals. It is surprising and shocking. Your hero has fallen from grace.

Creativity can be a fragile thing. Some can tap into it at will. They decide to create and just start creating.

For others, there are fears and doubts. They don’t think they can follow their passions so they bury themselves in drug abuse, bad relationships and money troubles.

From those difficulties, they find the strong, passionate emotions they need to create.

They often stay in that bad place because they believe that the muse will elude them if they start to feel good.

This is not necessary. Creation is just as simple as believing in it. 

Think, dream, take appropriate action (occasionally stopping to reevaluate) and make it happen. 

Many people do their best work under adversity. A project is due in a few hours so there is no time to argue with themselves about it. They just jump in and do it. Often it is their very best work, because the worry and fear have kick started their creative juices.

“So,” you think, “I must be under great pressure and stress to create something wonderful? Why bother?”

Why? Because you must. Your soul is here to do work. If your ego does not cooperate, then you will be put into a situation where you have no choice.

So don’t fight your dreams! Stop resisting the idea of vitality, love and prosperity! 

If you must have a little adversity to create then give yourself some. Make it a controlled, environment. 

Set a time limit. Be serious about it. Use a timer or mark it on your calendar and honor it. Face your fears.

Jump in and act without over-thinking the situation (without putting your life in danger).

Risk looking foolish. Stop worrying about what others are thinking. Start creating, right now!

Before you talk yourself out of it. ~Silas