Healing can be a messy business. Emotional healing is extremely difficult for
most people. Many would rather heal from
a broken leg than a broken heart. A
break that is improperly set can leave you damaged for life.
You can put it off, deny it or suppress it with painkillers,
but the problem remains until you chose to heal it. A bit of hard work is
required, but the ends always justify
the means. You will be glad you started
the process. Whether you’re healing from
a death, divorce, job loss or illness,
healing takes time, but suppression and denial waste time. It’s okay to be
gentle with yourself, but for Heaven’s sake, get started. You owe it to yourself.
Healing doesn’t take place all at once. There are steps,
phases and plateaus and a qualified counselor is always helpful if you can
afford it. If not, just think of Nellie Forbush from “South Pacific”. Healing is not as simple as washing your
hair, but it is a good place to start:
·
Lather-
Start the process. Get wet with a good cry, lather with some self-care
and pampering. It’s okay to feel the
emotions. It may hurt, but you are only visiting the feelings, you are
preparing to send them packing. It is temporary. You are setting out the boxes and trash bags and preparing to clean house. Things may look messy at this point, but that is okay.
·
Rinse-
Begin to let go. Release pain and heartbreak and allow healing to come
in. Purge your closets, get a new
hairstyle, buy some new clothes. Perform a releasing ceremony. Have fun and laugh at every opportunity. You are rebirthing yourself for the better. Let it show.
·
Repeat-
Healing can take a long time, but with each cycle of healing, you get
better and stronger. The sadness goes
away and you have moments of joy and bliss. When the energy gets heavy, repeat
the process. It gets easier each time.
Healing can be like a new workout routine. It is hard to do in the beginning, but once
you start to see results, you are encouraged to continue. You are worth it.
~Silas
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