Love Yourself Enough to Let Go

The subject of forgiveness is not the most popular among your spiritual communities and yet it can bring about amazing changes.

It is a selfless act that is just a tiny bit selfish. Forgiveness is not about the other person but about you and how you can gain freedom from a situation that has spiritually tied you down.

Past life unforgiveness comes back in a different form in the present life. You are given an opportunity to forgive the souls who harmed you or continue the dance into several more lifetimes.

Love yourself enough to let go and forgive those who hurt you. From the deepest wounds, you gain knowledge. From the healing of those wounds, you gain power and strength.

Love yourself enough to free yourself from a past that has harmed you and as a couple does on their wedding day, promise yourself to create a better future. ~Silas

Yes! I Can Even!

Fairy A-musings:

Just another pre-Halloween weekend, walking through a hotel lobby wearing leather elven  armor next to Lady Death and a fallen Angel.
 

My new “normal” life allows me so much fun and creative freedom that I can’t imagine living any other way.

Yet, years ago, I would never have imagined this life. 

Back in those days, I used the word, “can’t” a lot. Can’t is the tombstone of the subject of the sentence. When you’ve said it enough your life becomes a graveyard of missed opportunities and lost dreams.

I’ve decided that while I’m alive, I am focusing on life. If I am unable to bury my “can’ts” I can, at least cage them and only feed them when they are being helpful such as “I can’t cross the street now,” (in front of the semi truck).

Instead, I will add some colorful new phrases to my vocabulary: “I haven’t tried that yet, I wonder what would happen if I did?” and “That’s just because no one ever has.” 

C-word be gone! You have no power here!

Now go before I drop a house on you!

On second thought, why waste a good house on something that doesn’t exist.

*fairy giggles*

Always Let Go

You have not been put on this Earth alone.  There are countless souls among you here, and an infinite number of souls who would like to be here.  You are all here for a reason, and it is all about you.

It is an act of kindness to support the dreams of another.  You incur good karma helping those who are lost or broken.  At some point, however, the help must cease, as the other person gets stronger, or heals and moves forward.

You may give to another person and find yourself exhausted and depleted of energy.  You set your own dreams aside to assist a friend or loved one.  You may feel so dependent on the energy of another, that you wear yourself out holding on so that you will not feel alone.  

If you continuously enable a person who refuses to help themselves,  you are not being helpful.  Instead, you are doing harm as they will not be able to stand on their own when you have exhausted your energy and collapsed.  A mother bird will only feed her babies until they have grown wings and are able to fly and find food on their own.  Can you imagine a clutch of full grown birds crowded into a tiny nest, while their mother exhausts herself finding food for them, starving herself in the process?  When she dies, the birds are vulnerable to predators as they cry, starving in their nest, unable to fend for themselves.

When you cling to another, you exhaust yourself in the process.  You look to a source outside of yourself and will eventually drain it dry.  If they are strong, they will break free of your influence and you will feel a painful recoil as an unhealthy connection snaps.  If they are not strong enough, you will find yourselves locked in an unhealthy embrace as you both plummet towards the ground.  Neither one of you will achieve success or fulfillment.

Whether you are dragging or being dragged, you must let go.  This will not end the relationship, but improve it.  Healthy relationships are energizing and inspiring, and they are best nurtured in freedom. 

A bird in a cage is a sad sight.  Open the door and take to the skies!  This is the ultimate act of love.  If given freely, your flock mates will always return to perch near you and sing songs of their adventures.  Then you can sing of yours. ~Silas