Love Yourself Enough to Let Go

The subject of forgiveness is not the most popular among your spiritual communities and yet it can bring about amazing changes.

It is a selfless act that is just a tiny bit selfish. Forgiveness is not about the other person but about you and how you can gain freedom from a situation that has spiritually tied you down.

Past life unforgiveness comes back in a different form in the present life. You are given an opportunity to forgive the souls who harmed you or continue the dance into several more lifetimes.

Love yourself enough to let go and forgive those who hurt you. From the deepest wounds, you gain knowledge. From the healing of those wounds, you gain power and strength.

Love yourself enough to free yourself from a past that has harmed you and as a couple does on their wedding day, promise yourself to create a better future. ~Silas

Glad to Be Sad

It troubles us, sometimes, to see you feeling sad or depressed. We understand why this happens for we are also sad sometimes.

The sadness is not who you are. It will pass if you let it. It will remain if you chose to hold onto it. 

Constant sadness is not you're natural state. If you cannot escape it, then enlist the help of a friend or counselor.

Most of you will have blue moments. Blue is one of many colors on the spectrum. It complements the reds and yellows, merges with the greens and violets. 

A life without a little blue would not be pleasant. 

Sadness is release. An ending that makes new beginnings possible.

It is cleansing rain, that clears away negative energy, allowing more room for love and light.

It is a pressure release valve that keeps your emotions from exploding.

Be glad that you can be sad, just don't live there.

There are too many other colors of the rainbow to explore. ~Silas

Leaving Behind to Move Forward

There are times when a relationship has, simply, run its course. People come together for a reason.

Sometimes they continue to grow and learn together. These are the relationships that last.

Two people often come together to meet and fulfill a need, or explore a common interest. As long as the need is present or both still have the same interest, the relationship will continue.

Letting go of a relationship doesn’t make you a bad person. You are not meant to stand still or wait for others to catch up.

You may not be ready to go down the path another is going. Respect yourself. You may need more time or you may need to take another path.

It is natural for some people to drift out of your life. It doesn’t have to be an ugly thing. As you release past relationships with love, new ones will drift into your life. 

If a relationship ends badly, then let it go. Do not exhaust yourself trying to make it work.

Good relationships require work, compromise and understanding, but one party should not have to do all the work.

 

If all efforts to remedy the relationship have failed, then it might have evolved beyond its usefulness and must be released.

The decision is always personal, but when a relationship is only causing grief and stress then have no guilt about letting it go.

You free yourself and allow the other party the responsibility of taking charge of their own life. That is a difficult gift for some to accept, but it brings power and strength and will ultimately take the person to a better place.

Letting go is not abandonment, but release. 

Sometimes you will find yourself released by another. Do not try to follow, they will return at an appropriate time if it is meant to happen. If it is not, then you are better off.

Give yourself the gift of release, assured in the knowledge that you are all that you need, and other companions will follow in time.

Some relationships last a lifetime, others are fleeting. They all happen for a reason. A long relationship is not better than a short one. It is only shorter. A painful relationship can be a life-changing lesson.

Your relationship with Spirit will never abandon you. Even in the absence of all companionship fairies, angels and spirit guides hover about you sending you love and encouragement. 

You are never alone. ~Silas

The Gift of Self-Control

There are times in your life where you relax, let go of the rules and just have fun.

You may dance, sing loudly, drink or eat foods that you normally don’t eat.

You say to yourself, “Enough of the rules, tonight I will let go and enjoy myself.”

Then you do. Until the next day when you wake up late and guilty and swear that you will never allow yourself that freedom again, but you do, eventually, and the cycle continues.

The real villain is not your craving, it is guilt. You keep yourself so tightly restricted that eventually, you grow tired and must loosen your grip.

Then you overindulge. You become a mindless machine that cannot turn itself off. You eat massive amounts of junk food, play hours of video games, drink until you are sick, then you enforce a state of famine.

Your body, mind and emotions feel deprived. This spiritual hunger grows until you can stand it no longer and you let go and indulge again.

To break this cycle, use your head. Practice doing the things you enjoy, mindfully. 

Try cutting your food into small bites and chew slowly. Enjoy the mixture of flavors, feel the food fill your stomach until you are satisfied.

If you drink, sip slowly. Feel the warmth of the liquid, the tingling on your tongue, the pleasant buzz in your head as the drink hits your bloodstream.

If it helps to think of this as a spiritual practice, go ahead. It is.

Whatever you do, be present. Give 100% of yourself to the task. Feel the satisfaction that results from a job well done. Marvel about the amazing feats you can accomplish when you pay attention to the task at hand.

Try this once a day, then more if you like. 

Slow down and capture every minute of this amazing life on Earth. It goes by very quickly.

Give your life more attention and you will find that you have all of the self-control that you need. 

What is that you say? You cannot do this? That is your guilt talking.

Have a cookie. Take small bites, chew, enjoy. That should quiet him down.

~Silas

Parting is Such Sweet Freedom

Sometimes, it is necessary for people to part company. 

It might feel easier to maintain the status quo, but sometimes, it is in the best interest of both parties to separate.

It  is not always that one party is good or bad, the energy is just not compatible. To hold on traps both parties in a place where they cannot move forward. 

It creates an energy that if not addressed and eliminated, becomes stagnant. 

Like leftover food stored in the back of the refrigerator, what was once a gourmet meal, has lost its flavor and begun to decay.

Sometimes one party is ready to let go and the other refuses to move on. Letting go will always bring the best results.

A clean break can allow, if desired, the parties to come together at a later time when growth and healing has occurred.

An incomplete break (one or both parties are holding on), will prevent both parties from moving forward.

You can make this clean and complete break without the other party’s consent. You have the right to move forward and live your life as you choose.

You should consciously do this whenever you feel strong emotions surrounding a breakup or ending of a friendship or business relationship.

A simple meditation, a letter or cord-cutting ritual can release this energy. 

Forgiveness is also important. Ask to see the soul of the other person. 

You might be surprised. A mean bully can be hiding a tiny fearful being that needs to feel loved and safe.

You can send love to the spirit without reattaching to the person. They then have the option of accepting it so they can move forward, or dismissing it and staying where they are.

You, however, will be free to move forward having cut the cord that was bound to your ankle.

Like an elephant who thinks he cannot escape even though he is only tied to a small wooden stake, they may not realize they have the power to move forward.

Taking yourself out of the equation, forces them to deal with what they, alone, have created. 

What another person does to you, whether it be good or bad, is about them, and who they are.

Don’t take it personally. Unforgiveness is not worth the price to your soul. 

Let go, move on and be brilliant. You have the power.

Forgive and Fly

Forgiving those who have hurt you can be a difficult process, yet failure to forgive holds no one imprisoned but you.  

Always look for the gift.

Did someone hold you back? Think of a rubber band being pulled back tighter and tighter until it must be released and then its contents (you) are propelled forward at tremendous speed. This rapid growth would have taken much longer had you not first been held back.

Did someone break your heart? Like a bone that is set improperly, sometimes a heart must be re-broken so that it can be set correctly and heal completely. Only then can you find real love.

Did someone steal from you?  Then you most likely learned the value of what you have.  Give thanks for all of your blessings, and more will come to you.

Did someone insult you?  How wonderful that they have spoken to you what is not true.  How lovely it is that their words and actions push you towards people who have more compassionate and loving hearts.

Pain always brings a gift if you have the courage to look for it.

Remember, in forgiveness, you are not condoning the behavior, you are rising above it and freeing yourself from it.

You cannot hope to fly when your ankles are shackled . Forgive, let go, and take off! Your glorious future awaits!  ~Silas