Love Yourself Enough to Let Go

The subject of forgiveness is not the most popular among your spiritual communities and yet it can bring about amazing changes.

It is a selfless act that is just a tiny bit selfish. Forgiveness is not about the other person but about you and how you can gain freedom from a situation that has spiritually tied you down.

Past life unforgiveness comes back in a different form in the present life. You are given an opportunity to forgive the souls who harmed you or continue the dance into several more lifetimes.

Love yourself enough to let go and forgive those who hurt you. From the deepest wounds, you gain knowledge. From the healing of those wounds, you gain power and strength.

Love yourself enough to free yourself from a past that has harmed you and as a couple does on their wedding day, promise yourself to create a better future. ~Silas

Gratitude and Forgiveness- The Gifts That Return to You

Most of you are familiar with the idea that gratitude can bring more good things into your life. The vibration of gratitude towards a person, object or event, will naturally attract more of the same.

Gratitude is not clinging. It does not grasp tightly to what you are grateful for. It is actually a release. Like putting down a beloved pet with complete faith that it will come back to you.

This allows more good things to flow into your life as you have not clogged up your energy by clinging desperately to what you have.

People will come into your life and do good things, bring joy and happiness and teach you from a place of love. Be grateful for them. Honor what they have done and do not look to them to supply all of your needs. They may remain in your life, or they may go with love and new people will bring fresh energy, love and healing your way.

Conversely, some people will treat you badly. If you want them to stay, continue to dwell on all of the mean things they have done to you. They have, after all, done you a service. They have shown you who you are not. They have pushed you, through fear and intimidation, out of your comfort zone. They have given you an opportunity to learn skills that will serve you in the future.

The opposite of gratitude is forgiveness. It is not asking for more of the same. It is breaking the tie that keeps them in your life treating you badly. When you release them, you leave a void. Like all voids, it wants to be filled.

When you need someone to stop hurting you or you need to stop dwelling on past pain, think of the person or persons involved. Think about what you have learned. Be grateful for this lesson, and do not cling to them as teachers. Release them with love and the next situation will bring more love and goodness into your life.

You do not deserve and should never tolerate abuse of any kind. Once you have discovered the source of it. Let go and be done with it. You have better things on the way. Make room. ~Silas

Forgive and Fly

Forgiving those who have hurt you can be a difficult process, yet failure to forgive holds no one imprisoned but you.  

Always look for the gift.

Did someone hold you back? Think of a rubber band being pulled back tighter and tighter until it must be released and then its contents (you) are propelled forward at tremendous speed. This rapid growth would have taken much longer had you not first been held back.

Did someone break your heart? Like a bone that is set improperly, sometimes a heart must be re-broken so that it can be set correctly and heal completely. Only then can you find real love.

Did someone steal from you?  Then you most likely learned the value of what you have.  Give thanks for all of your blessings, and more will come to you.

Did someone insult you?  How wonderful that they have spoken to you what is not true.  How lovely it is that their words and actions push you towards people who have more compassionate and loving hearts.

Pain always brings a gift if you have the courage to look for it.

Remember, in forgiveness, you are not condoning the behavior, you are rising above it and freeing yourself from it.

You cannot hope to fly when your ankles are shackled . Forgive, let go, and take off! Your glorious future awaits!  ~Silas

Crazy Little Thing Called Karma

Ah, karma! The cosmic version of Santa Claus. It knows what you did last night. It never forgets a name or address. It sees you when you're sleeping, and knows who you are sleeping with. karma is your best friend, and your worst enemy's worst nightmare. Karma is a bitch, and she takes no prisoners.

Humans love to make things personal. 

Perhaps it would help to think of karma as a machine. Just like those cameras at stoplights, it doesn't care that you're running late for your daughter's piano recital or that it was just a momentary lapse and you've never had a ticket in your life. The camera keeps clicking, no matter who you are. 

Karma is actually more like a computer program. 

It is programmed to do a task and will continue to do that unless something changes the program, slows it down or stops it. Sounds a bit like a scary movie, yes? Yet, you have nothing more to fear from karma than you do your toaster, it will not harm you if you use it correctly. You would not toast your bread on the rim of your bathtub as you sit in the water. 

Working with the karmic computer correctly means that every action you take must be run in the operating system, "LOVE". Otherwise, you will damage the program you are running, so that every action you take will fail, or work against you. This is not punishment or revenge, it is just the program doing its job. 

Another way humans interfere with the program, is to plot revenge on those who have harmed them, or, simply, refuse to forgive them. When you clog the operating system with either of these programs, the karmic computer grinds to a halt. Ironically, by seeking revenge or refusing forgiveness, you actually, save them from the karma they have created. How sweet of you! They probably don't even appreciate it.

When you forgive, you untether yourself from that person. You don't excuse their actions, you move away, and move on. Their karma is their business and yours is yours. 

You don't forgive for them, you forgive for yourself. If the situation can be resolved, so be it. If not, then you don't want to be in the fallout zone.

Jinnzania's side notes: I've been struggling with the issue of forgiveness for more than a year. I've gone through the traditional series of, pain, sadness, anger, resentment, anger, fear, anger, depression, anger and, finally, anger. Hmmmm.......I think I see where I might have been stuck. I was not only angry with the person, but furious with karma for allowing them to get away, unpunished. My elemental friends often speak to me in visions. One day, I saw myself tethered to a burning building, a house I'd once lived in. I realized I was attaching myself to an impending disaster that was no longer part of my life. I focused on forgiving, for myself, and felt much lighter and more free. During the last full moon, I asked for help to release the rest of it. I felt different, and was finally able to focus on my own life. Afterward, and very quickly, I might add, karma did its thing. As always, just to prove a point, it gave me a front row seat. 

Yes, karma works if we step away and let it do it's job. Forgive, release.....don't micromanage.

Forgiving- For You

One of the reasons we hold on to unforgiveness is that we, on some level, have a belief that the other person will see what they've done to us or try to make amends in some way. This is a lovely thought, but highly unlikely if the friendship or relationship has ended. If they were truly worthy of your love and friendship, they would have done it by now.

Chances are, they are not thinking about you at all, or they are creating a scenario or script in their heads in which you are the "bad guy". 

Sometimes it helps to voice your feelings about how you've been hurt, revisit what they have done to you or plot a fitting revenge (but only in your mind).  It can be a good temporary strategy, in the beginning. 

At some point, however, it becomes like pouring out a bucket of your tears into a stagnant pool of water. Your bucket will be empty (until the next rainstorm), but they just sit in the water, becoming poisoned by the pollution in the pond. 

If you must bring up the past, do it for a positive purpose. Pour the energy into art, poetry, music; find your own creative channel to express your grief. Take positive examples from it. Stress lessons you have learned. Warn the vulnerable, but only when it is appropriate to help them.

Empty your bucket into a spring, which will pump it out into a river and, eventually, into the ocean. 

Soon this new positive goal will become your mission and you will forget all about.....hmmm....What were we talking about?  <3 Fairy Giggles<3

Jinnzania's side notes: I had a very profound spiritual experience this weekend. In meditation, I asked for help with an issue I'd been struggling with for more than a year. I've been holding on to pain connected to a person who had hurt me very deeply. The answer I got was that I was giving the person more attention than they deserved. The energy I was putting into this anger, resentment and pain was blocking my creativity and keeping me from seeing the bright future that the Universe has prepared for me. All this for a con artist who only pretended to be my friend. The forgiveness was for me. 

Forgiving a person does not condone their actions. You can forgive the person who steps on your foot. That does not mean inviting them to do it again, or encouraging them to step on the feet of others. You rub away the pain in your toes and start walking again as soon as it feels a little better. You would not look down at your foot and wail, "WHY!?!"  

So, why do we treat our hearts this way?