Choosing Words of Love

Words, words,words....your language has so many, and yet you apply meanings to older words and expressions that they were never meant to have.

You, then, turn a neutral word, into a bad one.

Our, "for instance" for today, is the term "politically correct." Having watched your politics, we might note that using that word in the expression was probably dooming it to fall into the "bad" category.

Words are neutral. All words. It is the thought intent you put behind them that makes them good or bad. Either way, they will manifest when repeated, so use them cautiously and immerse yourself in the best language you can.

The words, "politically correct" were designed as a way to show respect to all people of different, races, religious beliefs, physical and mental abilities and political affiliations.

When you say, "I'm tired of being 'politically correct' what you are saying is that you do not wish to show respect to those who fall into these categories. 

Not what you meant, perhaps? The words have been so watered down and overused that they have lost their meaning. 

Or do you mean you do not respect those of different religions as yours, but it's not ok to make fun of people with physical challenges. 

We would encourage you to drop these words from your vocabulary. Say what you mean. If you do not care about women's rights or the feelings of those born with Down's Syndrome then say it. 

You will not get as much respect if you do not preface it by saying, "I know it's not 'politically correct' to say this, ....." but at least you are being honest about your feelings. 

You may be prejudiced, you may be racist or sexist. Most of you are to a small degree. It is the result of your belief in separation. You lash out at those who have qualities you do not like about yourself so that you don't have to deal with resolving your own issues. That is hard work. Much easier to blame these people or those. 

When you find yourself being "anti" this or that, ask yourself what qualities of this or that, you possess and want to eliminate.

Standing behind words or spiritual or political beliefs with others who feel the same way does not absolve you of personal responsibility. When you leave this world an have to be accountable for your life, you cannot get out of it by saying, "my pastor said, or my congressman said....." When you open your mouth, or type words on your keyboard, ask yourself, "Are my words helpful and kind, or mean spirited and self-serving?"

One day, when you have to defend them, you will find yourself standing alone. Will you still be as bold?
 
When you find yourself being a "pro" instead of an "anti" you will have a lot more peace in your life and feel good about who you are and what you stand for.~Silas

Putting Down the Gavel

You have many new churches and new spiritual philosophies that tell you they are free of judgment.

The word  “ judgment” is used as though it is something evil. 

If not for judgment, the human race would not exist. You would have walked through ancient fire pits and jumped off of high cliffs, believing nothing could harm you.

In this modern age, you would be walking in traffic which would be driving in all lanes , in different directions, crossing lines and running red lights.

Judgment, used effectively, is a good thing.

One of the first things and infant learns to do is judge.

He learns that a very loud wail will bring food and a clean diaper. She learns that if she cries, she will be picked up and cuddled.

All of childhood is spent in judgment.  A child learns that a stove is hot and can hurt. He learns that hitting others brings punishment or retaliation.

Judgment has a purpose. It is like a condiment in a meal. You need just the right amount. Too much will spoil the entire dish.

So, how can you tell when enough judgment is enough? Using the meal analogy, it is when you stop salting your own food and start sprinkling on your neighbor’s plate.

The purpose of judgment is to show how something affects you. If it does not affect you and you continue to hold on to judgment about it, then  you create chaos and separation.

“But what about injustice? Murder? Thievery?” you ask. 

Of course, you must take whatever action you feel moved to take.  Judgment comes when you demand that others do the same. 

You may feel  moved by a particular philosophy or religion. You may decide to join, attend services, write or blog about it. Good for you, if it serves to improve your life.

Just do not ask others to do the same. This is asking them to relinquish their right to free will. It is asking them to suspend their right to think for themselves and make their own decisions.

You may tell them what you feel, but you will cause separation if you run after them if they choose another path.  You will cause friction and anger if you insist that they see things your way.

Suggesting that their failure to see things your way is caused by a lack of intelligence will come back to you.  It will not likely be pleasant as karma does not teach that way.

So how do you resolve this judgment thing? We will not tell you as we do not wish to affect your free thinking, a but we would suggest that when you find yourself feeling judgmental about a person or situation or retaliating against judgment with judgment, ask yourself:  “How does this affect me?”

If it doesn’t, walk away. Find out why you are bothered. Then let it go.

It is our judgment that this will make you feel better, but do not take our word for it. Think and decide for yourself.

This is your right as a citizen of Earth.  Exercise it. ~Silas

Parting is Such Sweet Freedom

Sometimes, it is necessary for people to part company. 

It might feel easier to maintain the status quo, but sometimes, it is in the best interest of both parties to separate.

It  is not always that one party is good or bad, the energy is just not compatible. To hold on traps both parties in a place where they cannot move forward. 

It creates an energy that if not addressed and eliminated, becomes stagnant. 

Like leftover food stored in the back of the refrigerator, what was once a gourmet meal, has lost its flavor and begun to decay.

Sometimes one party is ready to let go and the other refuses to move on. Letting go will always bring the best results.

A clean break can allow, if desired, the parties to come together at a later time when growth and healing has occurred.

An incomplete break (one or both parties are holding on), will prevent both parties from moving forward.

You can make this clean and complete break without the other party’s consent. You have the right to move forward and live your life as you choose.

You should consciously do this whenever you feel strong emotions surrounding a breakup or ending of a friendship or business relationship.

A simple meditation, a letter or cord-cutting ritual can release this energy. 

Forgiveness is also important. Ask to see the soul of the other person. 

You might be surprised. A mean bully can be hiding a tiny fearful being that needs to feel loved and safe.

You can send love to the spirit without reattaching to the person. They then have the option of accepting it so they can move forward, or dismissing it and staying where they are.

You, however, will be free to move forward having cut the cord that was bound to your ankle.

Like an elephant who thinks he cannot escape even though he is only tied to a small wooden stake, they may not realize they have the power to move forward.

Taking yourself out of the equation, forces them to deal with what they, alone, have created. 

What another person does to you, whether it be good or bad, is about them, and who they are.

Don’t take it personally. Unforgiveness is not worth the price to your soul. 

Let go, move on and be brilliant. You have the power.