Rest vs. Laziness

As children, you are often told that you are being lazy when you sit around and do nothing. As adults, you refuse to slow down even when you are ill or tired.

Your body remains in a sluggish, tired state on a regular basis. You make plans but lack the energy and enthusiasm to carry them out.

Most of you take better care of your automobiles than your bodies.

You would not run your car's engine all day long and not expect the parts to wear or the gas to run out. You give it the best gas and the highest quality service you can afford. You drive your car as you need to, then park it in a cool garage if, possible.

Your bodies are often subjected to unnatural schedules and given cheap, inadequate fuel because it is convenient. You attempt to run them from morning until evening with no rest. Then you give your body stimulants to keep it running, when it can go no longer.

Taking a break is not laziness. It is part of the necessary maintenance of your physical vessel. Do not let the guilt or judgement of others keep you from doing what you need to do for your health and well-being.

If you take your resting periods as seriously as your work time, your energy and the quality of your work will improve, and your life will feel easy and balanced. Now put away your computer and take a break. The world will wait for you. ~Silas

Jinnzania's side notes: ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ

The Gift of Rejection

We will not pretend that rejection is not a painful thing. We are always close to offer comfort and assistance when you feel it. Most people will experience rejection before finding love, getting a job or publishing a book. Famous writers have been known to save their rejection letters for the purpose of learning and motivation.

In every rejection, there is a lesson to be learned. Rejections are like the sour notes played by musicians when they are learning a new song, or the falls and defeats suffered by athletes as they perfect their skills.

The enemy in rejection is judgement. It has nothing to do with who you are. In fact it is more often a reflection of the other person. If a person treats you badly in a rejection, they are showing you who they are. They are also showing you that they have done you a favor. For whatever reason a rejection occurs in a romantic relationship, it is a blessing if one party is not happy. The other partner would receive the unhappiness as well, and continuing the relationship would cause more pain.

Rejection is an action taken in response to incompatibility. It is not a reflection on either party unless they choose to make it so. If you try in a garment because you like the way it looks on a mannequin, but do not like the way it looks on you, would you feel that you were inferior to the garment? Hopefully, you would put it back and look for another that suits you. You might be disappointed that it didn't look the way you wanted when you wore it, but now you know that that style is not for you. You evaluate what was wrong with it (cut, color, length), figure out what you like, (neckline, sleeves), and look for a garment that would suit you better. You would not try on the same outfit thinking it will look better next time.

Do not take rejection personally. Study it, learn from it, but don't dwell on it. The store is full of garments that will fit you perfectly and look great. Keep shopping. ~ Silas

Jinnzania's side notes: Fear of rejection has kept me paralyzed for most of my adult life. The romantic rejections have been pretty severe. In my worst, not only did he indicate that the fault was mine ( I didn't move fast enough), but felt it necessary to bring her to an event we regularly attended. I refused to abandon my friends, so I had to go and see the two of them together in the midst of my heartbreak. At the time I was devastated, but later it occurred to me that only a truly cold-hearted individual, could do such a thing. I was the one who could do better. I was jealous of a woman who was falling in love with a heartless man. I should have pitied her for the inevitable heartbreak to come.

Sometimes the garment doesn't fit. Other times it is made of scratchy material that can cause a severe allergic reaction.

I know now that I am not inferior to him, just different. In fact, I think I might be a little smarter in some ways. After a year of passive-aggressive torture, this person has unfriended me on Facebook. Now I can say things I never would have said with him watching. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer, Genius, and don't piss off the fairy. Also, be grateful that I'm a better person than you are.

Raising Your Inner Child

The purpose of life on Earth is to enjoy and create. The problems and issues you create in your lives are simply obstacles that stand in the way of your pleasure and creations. It is not always enjoyable to move them, but it must be done. Unless you want to give up on this lifetime and try again the next. You have an opportunity to do this now, so why do you not?

Your ego is why.

You have been taught to envision your ego as a type of villain or angry schoolmaster who taunts you as often as they can. Your ego is actually, more like a child. As many of you are aware, raising children can be a challenge.

When you know you need to do something and that you will be better off for having done it, your ego is the one that wants to watch more television ("One more story, please?") Your ego detests a user-friendly workspace ("But I don't want to lean my room!"). Your ego would rather shut you down and sabotage your progress, than find another way to do something, ("I can't. I'm not capable).

Most people either give up, or fight the ego until it has a tantrum. Treat your ego as the child it is. Chores must be done, but always allow time for play, naps and an afternoon snack of milk and cookies if you like. If you fight the ego, it will strike back. If you give in it will not respect you and will continue to take advantage of your kind nature. Satisfy your soul by accomplishing something daily. Satisfy your ego with a little treat, or pleasurable experience afterward.

Strive not for perfection, but for balance. A balanced life is as close to perfection as you can get, and it is more than enough. ~Silas

Jinnzania's side notes: Today, I overwhelmed myself with unpacking and attempting to organize my space. At one point I felt a meltdown coming on, and I kept trying to push it aside and keep fighting through. When I couldn't take it any longer, I looked over at the clock. I checked the time and decided that I would give myself exactly ten minutes to have a meltdown. I managed to finish in five and had five minutes to rest before getting back to work.

It seems pretty silly and I had a good laugh over it, but it worked, and if something works, you keep doing it. I've found that rest and recreation are as important as work, and what's the point of work if you never get to play? I'm still trying to break old patterns and it is work, but each time I do I reclaim a little piece of myself.

Then I reward myself for the effort. If you work out regularly, you can afford to have cookies and milk. Weekend warriors usually burn out quickly, and they never get to eat anything yummy.

Setbacks

There is nothing more frustrating than getting into a flow and then having to stop because of an unforeseen circumstance or setback . It is frustrating for a reason. If you are aware, it will get your attention.

You might become annoyed with a person behind you who grabs your arm to stop you from crossing the street. You are already running late and now you have been set back a few seconds more. It is frustrating until you realize that being hit by the truck you nearly stepped in front of, would have set you back even further.

When you are on the right path and your vibration is correct to attract what you desire, things will go smoothly. Setbacks occur for different reasons.

As in the case of the person crossing the street, sometimes your progress is thwarted in order to keep you from harm's way. You have certainly heard stories of people missing trains or deciding to take a later flight and on doing so they are not involved in horrific accidents. If you are on the right path you will naturally avoid or gently be guided away from such situations.

Sometimes, you are on the right path, but your vibration is not in harmony with what you seek. A setback at this point gives you a chance to rethink and re-feel until you are able to attract your ideal situation.

Other times, you have taken a wrong turn. Spirit does not want you to waste time on that which will not work for you. A setback will stop your forward momentum in order to help you realize that you are walking down the wrong path, and keep you from getting stalled or lost in the wrong place.

When a large boulder drops into your path, don't give up on your goal. Instead, ask it why it's there. You will get an answer quickly if you are open to hearing it. Then your goal will be closer than ever, and you will never be late. ~Silas

Jinnzania's side notes: This happened to me today. Busy day planned and several stops to make. I didn't know when I'd get time to write and was wanting to get chores over with so I could relax. My first stop was a store that was not yet open. After a quick pout, I went across the street, got a cold drink and started to write. Feeling pretty good right now. Definitely have a better vibe. It's going to be a great day!

Independence Day

Independence. You want it or you fear it. You strive for it or take it from others. As with many of your other concepts and ideas, in our reality, independence does not exist.

If you were truly independent, you would be a lifeless empty shell. All things in your life that you have achieved have been through the grace of Spirit, and the assistance of other humans placed on your path.

As an infant, you are completely dependent on another. Growing up it is beneficial to have responsible adults to guide your footsteps. Even those who aspire to create businesses of their own and make their own way in life are dependent on people to purchase their products, people to promote them, and assist them in trivial matters so they can go about the business of thinking they are doing it by themselves.

What you may wish to seek in place of a concept which does not exist, is a healthy interdependence. A fair exchange for the assistance or a willingness to pay forward when you are not in a position to give back. Interdependence feels warm and comfortable. Like players on the same team. A sports team cannot exist with only one player trying to fill every position. The team of Humanity is no different. You need doctors, police officers, firefighters, sales clerks, wait staff, child care providers, artists, musicians
and all other occupations.

Even the most dependent of your race, newborn infants, bring innocence and love to their parents and to the Earth. They are interdependent with their parents. No one gets, or gives a free ride on this planet. You are here, you are powerful and you are attracting all of the people and experiences you need to be successful. The first step toward what you think of as independence is the word, please.

Enjoy your day and celebrate your position on the team of Humanity. We are always here to help. Happy Interdependence Day! ~Silas

Jinnzania's side notes: My recent experiences have taught me that when you let go of sadness, you make room for happiness, when you face your fears, you find a courage that you never knew was inside of you, and when you release your fears of dependence and helplessness, you find incredible strengths and abilities you never thought were possible.

When I truly, with all my heart desire something and send out a request to Spirit, I am always answered. I have learned, however, that I must be open to the form in which the answer comes. Sometimes I'm given exactly what I ask for, other times, I get the resources I need, and still other times, I find people who can help me.

Whatever business you're in, you cannot be successful without the help guidance or patronage of other people. When you finally get over yourself ( or your ego takes a nap), and say, "Help, please!", help will always be given. Sometimes you have to stop scratching your lottery ticket and pick up the twenty dollar bill that is lying on the sidewalk. It may not be a million dollars, but it's more than you had a minute ago, and who knows where it will take you. Millionaires have started with less.

Happy Interdependence day!

It's Not You.....Or Maybe It Is

Many of you are learning to break the habit of allowing others to mistreat and take advantage of you. This is a good thing and if you are working on this, we support you and are proud of your efforts. It is good for you to set healthy boundaries, as long as you set them on your own property.

You may realize that when you tell a child to defend himself, you must be specific. A child who does not have enough life experience to understand what you are saying, may assume that it is alright to become a bully. It is, regrettably, the same for many adults.

When you have an agreement or friendship with another person, it is appropriate to expect to have an equal partnership, with that person. You have every right to speak up when another person does not hold up their end of the bargain. You do not have the right to abuse that person. When you move into a place of being abusive, you are trying to right a wrong with another wrong.

"Standing your ground" and "setting your boundaries" does not give you the karmic freedom to make a "preemptive strike". Do not be so fearful of others hurting and attacking you, that you become the abuser.

When children are taught martial arts by an experienced teacher, they are encouraged to avoid using them unless it is necessary. They are not told to accept the attacks of others, but to avoid problem situations and walk away if possible. As with all things, balance is important.

It is important to learn and be able to stand up for yourself, but you don't need to wear you defenses like a suit of armor.

Think of an elephant. They are large creatures that are capable of inflicting serious damage to an enemy. Yet elephants don't normally seek to attack unless they are hurt or provoked. Most animals will avoid such an engagement. The lesson they teach is to stand tall, knowing you have all you need to protect yourself, but do not engage in attack or defense unless it is necessary.

What we say to you is: protect yourself for you deserve to be treated fairly, but wear your self-esteem and confidence on the outside, not your armor to weapons. Those around you will either be attracted to your strong yet loving nature, or be repelled as they have a much different vibration. Either way, you will benefit. ~Silas

Jinnzania's side notes: This has always been a challenge for me. I don't like to be mean to others, unfortunately, others are not often as considerate. Sometimes I avoid saying things so as to not hurt the feelings of another, then resentment builds up and I either explode in anger, or stay away from the person. Sometimes, it's an issue that can be resolved, if handled with firmness and compassion, and people who are that offended, will usually leave and end the situation.

As hard as it can be sometimes, I know that when I tell the other party what is bothering me, it clears things up. Yes, it can make things awkward, and the awkwardness is uncomfortable for me, but the alternative is anger and resentment directed inward, and that's not ok.

Friendships have ended because I have walked away, unable to express my frustrations openly. In most cases, the parties involved would have met my words with attack and the results would be the same. I just try to act from my heart and and continue working on it. So with regard to this subject. I would advise listening to Silas. Not my area of expertise, but learning more every day and Googling the crap out of it.

The Real Time Machine

You have a saying, "You can't go home again". It is true. Once you leave a place, job, relationship or situation, you cannot return expecting things to be the same. This occurs for two reasons. First, the place or situation you have left has changed. So that when you return, it is as though you are going to a new place. Second, you have changed. Therefore you don't fit in as you once did. Your thoughts and ideas have been changed by the new experiences.

Your nostalgic feelings have you believing that this is a bad thing. It is in fact, a blessing. It shows that you have grown.

You get to be in a new place with new tools at your disposal. You left as a private and return as a general.

You can confidently face the bullies of your past, and have a new appreciation for friends that have been with you all along. Things that were once intimidating seem smaller and more manageable.

Be grateful for your past, but be passionately in love with your present. Embrace your return not as a disappointing shadow of what was, but as a new, fresh start. You are the artist of your life. You have a fresh canvas and a full palatte of colors. You can paint any way you want.

Every day, on this planet, in your own back yard, the grass has grown, new flowers have bloomed, the trees have new leaves, some limbs may have died and fallen and a nest of birds has hatched. It has changed. It is not the same place it was when you went to bed last night.

You can never go "home" again, because "home" is always changing, as are you.

So we welcome you! Born again on this new day, on a new Earth. So, what will you create now? We are eager to find out. ~Silas

Jinnzania's side notes: Today, I am back home. I've been back enough that the changes around me have been less of a shock, but thinking back to nearly a year ago, I'm not at the "home" that I left. I'm glad. I was afraid of everything and looking for an escape. Being away reminded me of the things I love about being here, and the things I need to be cautious about.

It's good. I'm in a familiar place, and after a year of personal growth, I'm feeling prepared to deal with things I left behind. I'm appreciating my friends, my old hang outs, beaches with free public access, and safe, beautiful places to walk.

There's an expression, "If I only knew then, what I know now". I get a chance to try that out now. How cool is that?