Boundaries of Love

Many of you, allow others to take all of your energy, time and your peace of mind. You do this, falsely believing that you are showing love to the others around you.

 

You believe that setting boundaries is an act of aggression and not loving at all.

Boundaries can be aggressive if you set them on someone else’s property, but they can also be an act of self-love.

Telling those around you where your energetic borders are sets a good example of how you want others to treat you.

When you walk into the home of a friend, you see the way they do things, even if their ways are different from yours, you honor and observe them. 

The same thing happens when you show others that they are not allowed to invade your personal energy. 

If you do not set these boundaries, the other person may invade your space without meaning to do so. It is like setting them up to fail so that you can resent and be angry with them.

When you draw the lines clearly, there is understanding. You complete this understanding by showing that you respect their boundaries as well.

Then you can sit on the “fence” and have a delightful time together and share fun, loving communications. ~Silas.

The Ultimate Act of Self-Love

Every day take a few minutes to sit and connect with your Divine source.

This is the ultimate act of self love and one that most people neglect because it takes too much time or it is too hard to find the right place. Besides, how important can sitting still really be?

When you sit in meditation, you find the real you. You discover the energy with which you seek to have a relationship. You allow Divine source to love and heal you.

It also gives you an opportunity to get to know your guides, angels and fairy companions who can bring you wisdom and guidance.

Take even a few seconds several times a day: Take a breath, smile and connect to source energy.

You have the time and you are worth it. ~Silas

Be Shameless!

Feelings of shame are a huge barrier to self-love. 

As children you are shameless, until told otherwise. Shame is learned in order to "civilize" you. You must conform to certain standards in order to be accepted. And the common belief is that acceptance equals love.

Your most amazing creators, musicians, artists, writers and dancers had to work past that fear of acceptance in order to manifest their creations.

They shunned the opinions of others and put their whole heart and soul into their works.

Release of shame is freedom!

It allows you to get to the place of taking the big risks that lead to amazing creations.

You can continue to be "civilized" and be accepted by a large group of unhappy people, or you can be the one who inspires them to break away from the group and make miracles in their life.

As you love yourself, learn to break away from the opinions of others so that you can take the chances that lead to the life you deserve.

Today, do something, which would be viewed as a little "crazy." Hum or sing out loud, dance to the music playing on your headphones, have a conversation with a stray dog....

Breathe the free air and inspire others to follow your example. ~Silas

Your First Date (With You)

So in this practice of loving yourself as you would love another, it is time for that first date.

Where will you take yourself? You don't have to go alone to a movie or restaurant, you can go for a romantic walk under the stars or make a cup of tea and snuggle on the couch and read a good book to yourself.

Take this practice as seriously as you would if you were entertaining another. 

You are not allowed to skimp or roll your eyes during the process.

When you treat yourself with love and respect, others will treat you the same way.

As a child of the Divine, you deserve the best. Give it to yourself today. ~Silas

Looking Out for the Lifeguard

When you love yourself, giving yourself the same time, attention and energy that you would give a prospective lover you are trying to seduce, you are actually doing a service to those around you.

A lifeguard serves the swimmers she protects by staying in shape and taking the time to train and educate herself. 

She pays attention to those on the beach as well as those in the water, but does not allow them to drain her time or energy as she has her work to do.

When she jumps in the pool to help one who is drowning, she must stay in control of the encounter. Otherwise a panicked swimmer might pull her down as well.

This would not be a selfless act as both would most likely drown.

Self-care has a trickle out effect, helping not only the individual, but also those whom they encounter.

Loving yourself is the first step towards loving the whole world. And, yes, your heart is capable of loving the entire world with room to spare. Let the loving begin today! ~Silas

Falling in Love With You: Remembering Who You Are

Today is a new day and a new opportunity to fall in love with yourself all over again!

Close your eyes and imagine yourself standing in front of you. 

Look at yourself as a parent might see you. Not as an earthly parent with their own emotional baggage, but as the Divine Creator parent would.

You were made of light and magic and created to to magnificent things on Earth. Over lifetimes you may have forgotten, but the seed of that intention is still there. That spark of light that started this journey is still glowing and can never be extinguished.

This incredible being standing before you, shares your hopes and dreams. Will you join with them? or sabotage their efforts? What would you do for someone you truly, deeply, unconditionally love?

You have chosen this body, this lifetime and this spiritual journey to be part of the evolution of all of the souls on this planet. The only way to not be head over heels in love with you is to use great effort to block your own light from yourself.

Why would you want to work that hard? It serves no purpose. Let go of that resistance, and allow your love to flow to the you that you see in your mind's eye. Feel the sweet energy that flows into you as you are both one in the same.

Now go and evolve yourself and evolve the Earth. It is what you are here for, and yes, it is just that simple. ~Silas

The Greatest Love Story Begins Today!

You often underestimate the importance of self-love. You know it is a spiritual necessity, but like doing housework or taking care of your physical bodies, you avoid it because it is work. 

When you show yourself love, it can be work. Just as it can be work to show love to another. But what do you feel when you are on the receiving end of that love, that leap in your heart as your beloved walks into the room, that squeal of delight at yet another token of affection? It feels wonderful, of course, it makes you walk around in a sea of bliss.

What if you discovered that your perfect love was always nearby and would never leave you and wanted nothing more than to make you the happiest person on Earth?

It is time to go on a blind date. A date with someone you have been around, but never really met. Someone who will love you so much that fairy tale characters will want to read about you. 
That someone IS you. 

This relationship is going to be fun, romantic, sensual and sexual. How can it not be, you are starting a relationship with a person who knows you as well and sometimes better than you know yourself?

Spiritual leaders are fond of telling you that you should love yourself, but they don't always tell you how to do it. 

So let us begin! On this day in 2017, pledge to start a relationship that is a whirlwind, and yet stable, wildly romantic, with a touch of philosophy, emotional support and comfort.

It is time to fall in love with you! ~Silas

Loving Your Past

As you look back at your life. You will see that you have come a long way.

You may have lost weight, found a better job, you stand taller, prouder, you have walked away from abusive situations, and learned to stand up or yourself. You are proud of who you are, and you hate who you once were. We ask you not to be so hard on your past self. After all, they did the best they could, and didn't have the advantages that you have.

You proudly go to the gym and pound your muscles into submission. You have become a workout warrior, enjoying the sweat and the minor aches and pains. The struggles you faced however are nothing compared to the task faced by the person you once were. That person fought low self-esteem and inertia, went outside for walks feeling that their too large body made them the object of ridicule. They kept going, fighting a daily battle bravely gaining ground through hard work and perseverance.

You go home after work and relax. You are now able to work smarter, and have all but forgotten the days of working hard for a low wage and little respect. The person, who updated their resume on their off time and kept looking, calling and updating their skills so that you could have a job you love.

You love who you have become. You forget the days when your heart was broken and you used every bit of strength you had to force yourself to get up in the morning. The person you were had to face and process a lot of pain to get you to this point. Healing is not for the weak.

Always be grateful for who you are right now, but do not hate who you were. It is that brave soul that one day said, "ENOUGH", and made a difficult decision to change. This person is the real giant slayer, this is the warrior who stood in front of the enemy and gave their life for the cause.

Love always, who you are, but also love and cherish who you were. True heroes deserve a bit of worship. ~Silas

Jinnzania's side notes: Looking back at my past, I found it easy to become angry with myself. I was vulnerable and weak. I believed everything I was told without question. I was overweight, so I didn't feel like I needed to worry about my appearance. I sat home and did nothing for nearly two decades.

Then one day, in meditation, I got in touch with my past self. I felt her fear, her feeling of powerlessness. She felt that she was all alone in the world, even when people were surrounding her.

I realized that it wasn't me who made the big changes in my life that brought me to a much better place. It was her. With all the odds against her, she fought to keep living. She survived and sacrificed her life so that I could have the life I have now. My gratitude and love for her grew. I let go of my anger and embraced my past.

Every experience I've ever had in my life, good or bad, has led me to this point. I like where I am. I love what I'm doing to make my life better, and I love what she did, when she had much less to work with. She is my past, she is gone, she is my hero.